A friendship of mine just blew up over my “good intentions” yesterday. A friend of mine was promoting her business on Facebook and I left a few innocent comments on her posts. I honestly feel that none of my comments were in any way derogatory, negative or “undermining.” She vehemently disagreed, claimed I have “boundary issues,” accused me of attacking her and then to top it off, suggested I was a co-dependent alcoholic who needed to attend alanon meetings. Why do people need to get so personal when it comes to disagreements? I kept my responses curteous and professional, I never said a negative thing about her and even continued to share some “unsolicited” advice with her on how to manage a Facebook presence.
I’d like to think that I know a little bit of what I’m talking about in regards to social media and online marketing, considering I make a living at it and have been doing this sort of thing (online marketing anyway) for quite a few years. I see her struggling to do the right things in promoting her business, but then get angry and frustrated when she doesn’t agree with the advice that’s being freely offered.
The worst part of this experience for me was the fact she wouldn’t let it go. I tried to end the argument several times, suggesting we should stop before things got ugly. If she had stopped when I apologized and tried to end the conversation we might still be friends. However to turn on me, call me a co-dependent alcoholic (of which I am neither) was the last straw and all I could do to end this train wreck was to remove her as a friend. I didn’t want to do it but it seemed to me the only way to get her to stop with the personal attacks (during which she was accusing me of attacking when I was trying to explain and apologize!).
Maybe I shouldn’t take this so hard, but I try my best to get along with everyone. It hurts me deeply when my good intentions are so horribly misunderstood.
I guess it’s true – the road to hell really is paved with good intentions.