Don’t Hate Me for Being Successful

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Successful WomanI know not everyone had a good year in 2011. Unemployment was still high, the US ended up getting entangled in Libya, the Occupy movement went into full-force this Autumn, SOPA seemed imminent.

That’s probably why whenever I have a really good year, and the rest of the world feels like it’s falling apart, I actually feel guilty. Like my having a good year is causing all the bad things in the world.

I know it’s silly to think like that but I’m always afraid when I talk about what a good year I’ve had, people might think I’m gloating. In fact I’ve been accused of gloating before when that’s not my intention and so because of that I feel all the guiltier when I do have a good year. When I have success I want to shout it from the rooftops, and not meekly and humbly act like it didn’t really happen.

What people don’t realize is that growing up I was told on a daily basis by my mom how unwanted and worthless I was. To counteract that I learned how to psych myself up by reminding myself of all the good things in my life and all the things I was good at. When she started in on me, I’d remind her about all the good things I’d done and that often shut her up for a few days.

So when I start to talk about how marvelously successful my business has been in 2011, the fact that I have an amazing man in my life and we have a bevvy of really great pets (especially the dogs, who are simply amazing), I’m not gloating. I’m reminding myself (and anyone who will listen) that I am not that unwanted, worthless child my mother always told me I was.

Next time you hear someone talk about their successes, don’t immediately assume they are gloating. Think about what reason they might have to want to tell the world about their success.

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